SHE takes off her sunglasses
I love my shades but I can’t always see things the way they are, through them. They provide really good coverage from the sun, but they in turn make everything around me more dimmer. The blue skies aren’t as blue. The shiny new car now looks dull. Before I went on my solo trip, I bought some sunglasses in one of my favorite color. Leopard. Adorned with UV protection I ventured out to the Far East...of Europe. While exploring with my new shades, I often found myself taking off my glasses for a while because I knew I wasn’t able to see things truly as they were. When I got back to the States, I packed away my sunglasses for a while...but I didn’t truly take them off. In my time away, I got have some self-reflection. In that time I was able to see the lens of offense that I had been walking around with for some time. Millennials get blamed for everything, so I don’t want to blame my hyperoffensivity (not a word) on my generational classification, but I’m pretty sure it’s the culprit. Case in point: as I was walking into the grocery store, the cashier looks at me, I look at her. I know I saw her eyebrows burrow as she seemed to look me up and down. I’m not one to back down from a stare-off, so I maintained eye contact until I was firmly in the canned goods aisle. The flood of plausible stories started flowing throughout my imagination as I tried to figure out what her problem was. I know I was guiltless... While in the scented fragrances aisle, I felt compelled to go back through her check-out line and pay. I was mentally equipped with quickfire responses...just in case (am I the only one that does that?). As I entered her line, she quickly slid the ‘Closed Lane’ plaque down the conveyor belt in my direction. KNEW IT!! All my hypotheses were true! I knew she had a problem with me! Her words then interrupted my mental “I was right” party I was throwing in my head. “Oh if that’s all you have, I can ring you up!” A couple party balloons popped in my head as I placed my one item of laundry detergent on the conveyor belt. “I really love your shirt, I saw it on the way in.” All the remaining balloons popped as I looked down at my brightly colored shirt that celebrates Autism Awareness and the beauty of being different! I felt like turning that shirt inside out in shame. Wow...not exactly what I was building up in my head. You’re not supposed to wear sunglasses indoors for a reason. Especially when they are built with a lens of offense. It’s so easy to go through life with these same shades on, whether you’re indoors or not. Interpreting everything around through tinted shades of “I can’t believe you said or did that.” Sometimes what we see if what we truly get. Sometime their words were meant to hurt you, and they're actions were meant to break you. Like shades, our perspective on things are inherently meant to protect us but sometimes we need to take them off to see things clearly. Sometimes situations and people are a lot brighter than we think.
"Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends." | Proverbs 17:9
What offense can you release this week?