SHE is not silent
According to the Social Security Administration, in the year I was born, Elizabeth was the eighth most popular name in the United States. Approximately 172, 624 other girls around the country were given my exact name. Somehow, it took 10 years for me to finally meet one. I remember it was the first day of 5th grade, and during roll call my head suddenly shot up as Elizabeth "Lizzy" H. was called for attendance. After quickly scanning the room for the raised hand, I remember sitting back in amazement that 'Elizabeth' wasn't so unique after all. But in retrospect, I probably passed or indirectly interacted with lots of Elizabeths. After all, I was on the top 10 list.
Life experiences can also happen like that. We all go through painful, tragic, or life-changing experiences and at times feel like we're going through them alone. Perhaps you go through heartbreak alone, because nobody wants to hear about my whining. Or maybe the insecurities you have at your job are just because I'm inadequate because everyone else seems to be doing their job just fine. Worse is when a tragedy hits and you think that because everyone is probably going through something too so no one has time to hold my hand through grief. Whatever your reason, I want to highlight that one of the enemy's greatest strategies against us is isolation, physically or emotionally.
One of my motivations in starting my weekly blogs came following a really tough time when I isolated myself physically and emotionally. I felt like no one would understand or would want to hear about what I was experiencing so it was best to process on my own. In doing this, I gave ample room for the devil to have a field day with my thoughts.
However, part of the process in getting myself out of that hole was being vulnerable and transparent with the right people. That led me to have the desire to share my life struggles, trials, but also victories with HERologians like yourself in hope that you would know that you're not alone. That some of your experiences are not as unique as the enemy would have you to think.
"so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it."
1 Corinthians 12:25-27
In blogging over the last year and a half, I've had the privilege of saying to others or hearing from readers, me too! From feelings of rejection to undeserved righteousness, the circle of shared experiences has gotten bigger, but the worlds in which we connect across has felt smaller.
Ultimately, I believe that God doesn't just allow us to go through things just for our benefit. Instead, I believe that we were created to live in community together so that we can share in the valleys and the victories. They may not always be able to help you carry it, but they know what that weight feels like.
Like my name, I lived my life feeling like I was the only one who could relate to me. However, it wasn't until someone spoke up that I could finally feel connected.
Have you ever shared your testimony or life experiences with others?
If you did, did notice or realize that others felt or went through something similar?
How can you use past or present experiences to connect with or support others?