SHE is single as a pringle
It's that time of year again Single People of America! Red, White, and Pink hearts, banners, and Date Night Discounts are filling our inboxes and retail windows. Maybe you're a hopeless romantic and so Valentine's Day is a day you look forward to, to love on others. Or perhaps, you're counting down the days, hours, seconds, until you don't have to explain to someone what your Thursday night plans won't be.
This is for my singles.
This is for me.
This is for the frank conversations I've had with God, like "When will it be my turn?"
Don't get me wrong. I love love, and love those that love and respect it too. However, after you've run all your errands, hosted all your game nights, and taken up your tenth new hobby, you sit back in silence. When all the distractions and deadlines pass, it alerts you to the reality that maybe you didn't expect to be single at this age or at this stage in your life.
Paul is well-known as the poster boy for Single & Satisfied. He was inspired to address all those who consider marriage, warning us like a cautious old friend to think hard about what people glamorize about married life.
1 Corinthians 7:
32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
Some of us have heard the encouraging word about how singleness is a gift, just like marriage is a gift. But in the lonely times of my life, I'm like, "Where's the gift receipt God, I'd like to return this."
However, after a nice little devotion, I reflected on the perks of being single...
For one, after a great retail rendezvous, it feels nice to barrel into my 1 bedroom apartment with all my recent purchases. I quiet down the rustling of my bags long enough to listen...to the sweet sound of silence. Not one soul to tell me that I don't need another mustard shoe (even though an open-toe heel and a backless sandal meet two different fashion needs, thank you).
...but our single lives are bigger than guilt-free retail therapy sessions. Our single lives are not even about us.
As Paul wrote, single men and women have the freedom to devote themselves to what God has purposed within us. And as much as I would like to control how my love narrative unfolds, I trust that the person that is right for me is going to be down my path to purpose rather than down the road that I'm trying to construct on my own wisdom. I've missed enough turns in my past, that I'd rather stay the course this time. Lord...help us to stay this course.
How are you filling up your single schedule? How are you using this time of freedom to its fullest potential as a single man or woman?