is SHE not enough?
While my blogs are made for men AND women...this one is for the single ladies!
I'm a horrible test taker. Studying for tests are even worse. My attention span only allows me to study for 30-45 min at a time before I need to watch a little tv or find another distractor. Studying can be so stressful because you typically don't know what exactly will be on the test. The worst tests to study for are the ones where the teacher or professor tells you to study for everything or all 20 chapters that were covered. Staring at the pile of books and notes you ask yourself...where do I even begin?
To add insult to injury, I can spend a whole weekend or week studying for an exam and then get to the test and completely blank or read all the questions like they're written in Mandarin. In the midst of the panic, I realize that my studying was probably not enough. Everything I had tried to do...and the effort I had put in will show up in the form of a failing grade.
Sometimes as single women we can feel like our single status brands us with a big failing grade on our forehead: unwanted, "just a friend", not enough. Society doesn't help by drawing these alluring and imaginary finish lines graffitied with the word “marriage” in magazines, tv shows, and woven into break room conversations. You can attempt to study the trends of today’s society: thin or thick thighs, tall or petite, natural hair or weaves. You can attempt to pass the test that the world will give you, but you will
fail always miserably.
"If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you." -John 15:19
When you’re a woman of God, your standards will never align with the world’s. We are made to feel like a ring will be the golden ticket to happiness. But when single women rush into relationships or marriages for the sake of a ring, that once prized possession quickly turns into a weight that they drag around instead like a prisoner.
I'd like to believe that I will be a wife someday. But my current marital status means I have a purpose for at least today that requires me to be single. So if you've struggled with being single like I have, remember that Christ makes you enough. Attempts to transform yourself out of the image Christ made you in, in order to please someone will never truly get his attention, and definitely won’t keep it.
What aspects of yourself do you feel are not enough to be desired?
How can you begin to speak God’s truth about who you are, starting right now?